I purposed to write every day of this year but I’ve already failed, as it is day two of the year and there’s nothing from day one. Oh well, here are a few things I’ve learnt and observed about marriage in the 10 years that I’ve been married and done life with other married people.

1. “The meaning of marriage is the display of the covenant-keeping love between Christ and his people.” —John and Noël Piper. If you haven’t read it, get yourself a copy of This Momentary Marriage: A Parable of Permanence by John Piper. It will reshape your views on marriage. Highly recommended for singles and marrieds alike.
2. Marriage is a sudden community update. In one day, hundreds of people are suddenly added to your database. You have to learn their names and things about them and you should only get to ask your spouse about each person once. 
3. Selection has a big impact on the marriage. Who you marry has a big impact on how the marriage goes. 
4. Adequate preparation for marriage (not the wedding) is a hack that will save you many lessons along the way. Do proper counselling by walking with a couple or two for a while before the wedding. 
5. Marriage can be fun. You get to live with your friend and see and talk to them everyday. That guy that’s been sat in your friend zone for years – marry him.
6. Your spouse is human. Remember that and you’ll have peace.
7. The more you are dependent on God, the better the marriage is. Depend on Him for joy, happiness and sustenance, not your spouse, and certainly not your children.
8. “Children are not part of your marriage.” —Rev. Can. Dr John Ssenyonyi 
9. Most relationships are repairable. Including marriages.
10. Crass materialism sustains very few marriages.
11. Life cannot be sustained by the highs. Fix the mundane and your life will be better. The same goes for marriage.
12. “When the impossible day comes that Christ breaks his vow, ‘I am with you always, to the end of the age,’ then, on that day, a human being may break his marriage covenant.” —John and Noël Piper